WE HAVE ALL HAD THOSE MOMENTS THAT LEAVE US SPEECHLESS.
SOMETIMES THE KIND OF SPEECHLESS THAT TAKES YOUR BREATH AWAY OR THE KIND OF SPEECHLESS THAT KNOCKS THE WIND OUT OF YOUR SAILS.
WHAT LEFT US SPEECHLESS WAS OUR SON STANDING BEFORE US, SPEECHLESS.
AT FIRST I FELT THE WIND KNOCKED OUT MY SAILS , BUT 12 MONTHS INTO THE JOURNEY AND HE IS TAKING MY BREATH AWAY.
Now, what’s taken our breath away is not that he has begun to speak but rather watching him conquer so much without words, without speech, he is doing it speechless.
The words of a mother that has a new hope for her son. Not because of a disability, but of his ABILITY.
Known as Garcia “The Brave” or his mom’s “Gentle Giant”, Garcia was born on 15 March 2016, and he is a boy of a different caliber. He reminds you a bit of Samson in the Bible, with his size and strength in comparison with his age. Garcia developed normally, until he was 18 months, when a medical intervention compromised his progress in development. He didn’t speak anymore, and he had a behaviour change.
According to a professional’s assessment, the anesthetic that Garcia received when he was challenged with grommets, released a gas into his body that is proven to be dangerous to kids with underlying genes. Garreth, Garcia’s father, has an autistic cousin, so Garcia has a vulnerable gene to autism. The professional believed that the gas released a chemical particle in his body that has basically caused the part of the brain that carries the language pathways to be compromised. Gosh, I’m sure any parent would process this challenge differently, but Laurelle and Garreth has done it with a bigger picture mindset. They didn’t focus on what has happened, but rather on what is possible in their next step. Garcia’s journey up to this day has been a miracle already. He integrated fully into a preschool with normal children, and he doesn’t necessarily play with them, but he doesn’t hurt or fight with them. He has learned how to build relationships with people, not with vocal language, but through affection and mannerisms.
The picture has changed from feeling ‘what has happened to our child’, to ‘how is this child going to be used in a very unique way?’ In a discussion with Laurelle, she mentioned‘like with anything, when you put your faith out there, it always comes loaded back with fear. Then you think “but what if it doesn’t work?”, but it already has worked, that’s where I settled it because there is nothing to prove. It can only get better from here because we’ve already been at the worst.’
In Garcia’s season of being ‘speechless’, it brought strength more than weakness. A new language has been formed and requires one to create something new in yourself to be able to relate or communicate, it’s quite rewarding when he reacts to your response. Laurelle is convinced that your vocabulary must change for the story to change. That’s what has brought her hope to life when she recognized the progress in Garcia.
Your child has something to do in this world. Rather find out what that is and tap into that rather than make them feel under pressure to be everything. I’ve had to draw myself away from everything he isn’t to everything he will need to be for himself. I don’t fight with comparison anymore. The healing still resides on the altar of God touching his life.
Garreth and Laurelle are about to meet a doctor that has extensive capabilities and research to identify the root that can possibly be treated. We’re trusting for a positive feedback and we can’t wait to hear what the future holds for Garcia ‘The Brave’.